Yesterday I came across a very moving post online in which Wilmer Valderama publicly celebrated Demi Lovato’s 3rd year of recovery. It was such a powerful gesture. And as impactful as it must have been for Demi to experience, it had an impact on me as well. For someone who struggles with mental illness and/or addcition, a relationshop can be a very powerful force: for better or worse. As someone who has been out of a relationship for over three years, I know how natural it is for a person to crave companionship on an intimate level. However, I have also experienced the ill effects of trusting someone with my story, sharing too much with someone who wasnt emotionally invested in my wellbeing. I have also been sought out by others because of my “broken nature”…be wary of those who always have to play the superhero. Many times it is only about their ego, not about your emotions. You should also NEVER be with someone who makes you feel like loving you is hard.
I am thankful the person I married was always supportive of my journey even if he did not understand my struggle.
Now that I am in another phase of my life, I am reminded of what’s important. For me, of course having somoene who loves Jesus more than he loves me is important. It is also important that they ae able to handle the weight of my past. I think it is so powerful to have someone who is standing in your corner cheering for you at all points, the highs and lows, of recovery.
It is rare to see a famous couple that you can actually look up to. Demi has always been an inspiration for me, and seeing how Wilmer’s love has been such a positive influence on her road to recovery, it makes me hope that the same is out there for me as well.